EXCERPT // IMAGERY
Occupation: Fashion Designer, writer and stylist.
Hobby: Running on trails.
My first experience with racial ignorance was when my friend’s White boyfriend told me, “For a Black Girl, you’re really beautiful.” First, it was awkward for him to say something like that to me in the first place. Secondly, I was so shocked by the “for a Black Girl” comment I didn’t even know how to respond. My mind was too busy trying to process it. Did he mean that because of our skin color, Black People couldn’t be beautiful? Was he telling me that I was lucky because I stood out from my race? Why couldn’t my beauty just stand alone for what it was and is? Why the disclaimer? What was more interesting is that I was already in a multiracial relationship, and my boyfriend had never said anything like that. When I told him about it, he was mad at this other guy’s ignorance and begged me not to assume that all White People thought stereotypically.
One thing I have realized about love, though, is that it has no colors or boundaries in relation to the stereotypes we all struggle with. I once promised myself I would never date outside of my race because of my own fears, but once I decided to start seeing people for who they truly were, beyond their race, skin color, or social backgrounds, the world became a whole new place for me. I was able to find love in the most unlikely situation with someone who looked at the world the same way I now did. That’s a whole other story though.